The role of parents in the life of the young - Proverbs 1:8-9

One of the characteristics of some TV shows and movies in our days is to depict parents as an unwelcome part of our lives. It is common to see kids trying to do things behind their parents back, telling them lies and challenging their authority. And in addition this is all done with tone of something normal, common, even expected. On the other hand, the Scriptures are filled with the idea of the authority and importance of our parents. Remember that there is a commandment exclusively dedicate to them and that our lord Jesus Christ himself demonstrated a particular interest and care for his earthly mother while at the cross.

My dear young reader, in these two verses of the book of Proverbs, Solomon gives you important principles to guide your relationship with your parents. The first one is the principle of equality. Observe that in verse 8, he used two words with the same meaning regarding what you are to do toward both your father and mother. Since these words are equal, no matter where the instruction or teaching is coming from (either from you father or mother), you are to consider them with the same authority and treat both of them with the same respect.

The second principle is that of the parents’ role. They are to instruct you and you are to hear their instruction and not forsaken them. In other words, expect your parents to correct you when they think you wrong. That is their role in your life. In our days, parental instruction is taken as an inconvenience, even as a lack of respect or invasion of space. All this ideas are contrary to the teaching of your God. It is because of His own design for a family that your parents take the time and make the great effort to instruct you in all areas. Your role, according to Solomon, is that of listening! Now, observe that he expands on that, you are to listen in such a way you will neither forget not neglect the instruction. That is the idea of the expression do not forsake.

The third principle is that of the value of your parent’s instruction. Solomon carries on his argument explaining why you should listen carefully to your parent’s teachings and not forsake them. He affirms that they are extremely valuable! They are compared to the golden crowns that are put on the heads of kings and queen. In a modern perspective, they are like the crown given to the prom queen, or like a football helmet made of gold! That is how important and valuable there are. Don’t you want to wear them?

Therefore, my young brother and sister, honor thy father and mother so that your days on earth may be long and prosperous. Give them the place of honor they deserve in your life, consider carefully their teachings and directions and never be ashamed of them. For if you do not honor you earthly parents who you can see, how are going to honor you heavenly Father who you do not see?